From a recent e-mail:
This is I guess a build up to blog post. As LeVar Burton used to say on his Reading Rainbow show, “Don’t take my word for it.” I do not feel that I am an expert in Nonviolent Communication (NVC) , but I sneak in learning opportunities when I can.
My personality needs help when it comes to interacting with people. I’m a fairly analytical type (INTP according to Meyers Briggs). So I have come to acknowledge the importance of keeping it simple, learning from talking with others, and relistening to role plays on YouTube — like Newt Bailey’s .
I appreciate your willingness to consider my ideas. My goal is to improve my ability to share basic real-food LCHF with other people, and to develop an automatic communication habit that effectively relays information (both ways) in a non-threatening way.
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Occasionally a statement strikes us as being profound or inspirational. A possible explanation is that we arrive at a new understanding of a basic need, or how we truly feel about something, or the facts or motivations underlying a history.
I was aware of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) since the early 2000’s. I found the concept while seeking psychological terminology to help understand and defuse an argument in the middle of which I found myself. As far as learning NVC, there are a few free PDFs and several YouTube lectures (which I surprisingly didn’t discover until about 2016) available to help with developing habits of stating your observations, avoiding judgement, expressing your feelings, and making requests. [3,4,5,6]
NVC and LCHF became connected for me when I was trying to categorize files I had saved (PDFs of journal articles and web pages, images, audio files).
I had categories of Perspective and Inspiration, but Logic was split into science vs. press vs. policy debate and Implementation was a little vague (recipes and miscellany)
Once I noticed a slight overlap with the NVC components, a slight realignment was fairly easy and clarifying. It turns out that these categories form pairwise opposites.
- Perspective — the big picture, satisfying a need for understanding.
- Implementation – the small picture, details involved in taking action on a personal, community, or national level.
- Logic – observations, research, facts.
- Inspiration – examples that make us ready to take action, dismantling fears.
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I am interested in strategies of communicating LCHF with people—people who may be skeptical, fearful, or sugar-addicted. I feel that combining the simple communication strategies of NVC with the enlightened understanding of metabolism expands our ability to reach people.
A few LCHF advocates who, I feel, exhibit NVC qualities.
- Dr. Eric Westman https://youtu.be/toLvGpk3HLE and https://youtu.be/L4t41uB-ZpE and https://youtu.be/x9-OkTOq-n0
- Dr. Gary Fettke https://youtu.be/qa5Bcm8T9nU
- Prof. Tim Noakes https://youtu.be/iFxz7YFjycg
- Dr. Stephen Phinney http://www.thelivinlowcarbshow.com/shownotes/4203/479-dr-steve-phinney-a-low-carb-legend-with-a-brand-new-book/
(the play button below the picture is a downloadable link to the audio file)
- Michelle Turnbull (now Michelle Easton) https://www.ketovangelist.com/episode-19-michelle-turnbull-talks-about-her-experiences-treating-various-clients-with-a-ketogenic-lifestyle/
- Dr. David Unwin https://youtu.be/KxbWw5jwzHs
- Dr. Caryn Zinn https://youtu.be/51NS_RBW4tY
- Prof. Grant Schofield https://youtu.be/j9Ovfw7mKR0
- Dr. Mary Vernon “What Questions Should I Ask My (Non-Low-Carb Friendly) Doc?” – episode 8 here http://www.thelivinlowcarbshow.com/shownotes/ask-the-low-carb-experts/
…. basically, anyone who enters into the debate over public policy in nutrition and argues based on facts, and underlying motives. Those who help people by establishing a personal goal, and a set of actions to get there.
Those who start by explaining their understandings based on personal experience. “This is what worked for me…” is, I feel, a very disarming way to start a conversation.
From 2016-01-12 interview of Jason Seib on Paleo Solution 304, at 29:54:
“So you need first I think, first and foremost, to believe that there is another side, that you can go over that fence and that [such] people do exist. We don’t have more will power than you. I’m not a stronger person. I’m in a different place and I did have to work hard to get to this place and you will too, but I’m in no way better than you. I’m just farther down the path.”
This statement I feel helps us to eliminate judgement, inward or outward.
It can be helpful to listen to interviews with people who have put effort into sharing the benefits of minimally processed, LCHF foods among their peers.
1/ Steve Hord – http://thewellnesscouch.com/tps/tps-119-steve-hord-of-fifowellness-com-on-his-new-book-fifo-theres-a-healthier-way
Here, I have used the categories — Perspective, Logic, Implementation, and Inspiration — in hopes that for someone seeking help, they might connect really well with one in particular:
1/ “Connected Communication – An Introduction” https://youtu.be/6KfZpr8QM5w
2/ “Nonviolent Communication (NVC) In Action (Part 1)” https://youtu.be/8ltr_JUkXiA
3/ “How You Can Use the NVC Process” https://drive.google.com/open?id=0B6YuJ0cBEq-SZldad0tUWmU2dVU
4/ “Nonviolent Communication – Circle of Life (color)” https://drive.google.com/open?id=0B6YuJ0cBEq-SdDNLZl9SNlhSZVE
5/ “Nonviolent Communication – Circle of Life” https://drive.google.com/open?id=0B6YuJ0cBEq-SNGNLRG1ZYzc3ZWc
6/ “Giraffe Talk: Nonviolent Communication for Parents” https://drive.google.com/open?id=0B6YuJ0cBEq-SUF9DcEZxcWk0Zk0
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